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New Dad's need to realize that "you" are just there. You are not the focal point. You are not the one the child wants to see in the morning or evening. You are simply the substitute. Mommy needs a break, enter Daddy to hold and play for a brief time. Your child can take you for short spans, but be sure to have Mommy ready to sub back in at first cry or whimper. Such is the life for Dads. When Abby and Bennett are together he has so much fun. She can make him laugh hysterically and smile ear-to-ear. When I try to replicate that it does not really go over so well. So imagine how excited I was when I was finally able to get Bennett to laugh. As you can see in the video he is having a grand old time. Well that move has become my signature move. It is all I can do to get him to laugh and cackle. So I do it on repeat and repeat and repeat. He loves it. And so do I. Yesterday I heard that familiar call and in I came suited up, ready to play Daddy and give Mommy a brief break. Bennett and I played for a bit, but as usual he was not that into it. So I decided to go to my signature move. It was going great and Bennett was starting to laugh. After a few seconds of this he started to wiggle around as I raised him toward the ceiling. I began to lose my grip and Bennett started his first sky-dive. Thankfully, I am blessed with enough athletic prowess that I was able to keep my hands on him and cushion the fall. Unfortunately, the majority of the cushion from the fall came from his head on the kitchen floor. Immediate silence and a death look from Mom followed. I am usually calm, cool and collected, but in this instance it was as if air raid sirens were going off and I was naked. I could not even think or move to dial the doctor's office. In comes super-hero Mom. She helps find calm in the eye of the storm, even though later she admitted to uncontrollably shaking in fear. I was able to get the doctor's office and nurse on the phone immediately (I actually could not speak at first b/c I fully anticipated an answering service on a Saturday morning). I handed the phone to Mom and she went through a litany of questions with the doctor and nurse. Questions ranged from;
How far did he fall?
Did he cry immediately?
How are his pupils?
Do you have a basement?
The nurse said that it was good that we had a basement because the hardness of the floors above are minimized. Thus, why I and every man needs his man-cave.
Dads' you are not the one your child longs for when he/she wakes and goes to sleep. You are better off retreating to your man-cave and doing "man things" while your child is comforted by the one he/she desires. Then when the time comes and you are in charge be glad that you have a man-cave so when you drop your child on his/her head the fall is not quite as hard.
(Editor's Note: As of this posting Bennett is fine. We were instructed to keep a close eye on Bennett and look for a few different symptoms. It has been more than 24 hours and we have not seen any of the warnings signs. We are thankful for just a scare and hard fall.)
Poor Bennett. I am sorry you had to endure that fall (Carson can relate...a nice shiner at 8 months from diving off the island with me right beside him). I am glad he is alright. Zach, all I can say is that you described our household to a T. Unfortunately Chris has no where to go and hide. You would think by the 3rd kid he would get it.
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